I often am asked to comment on whether it is okay for a parent to begin dating after their divorce. Parents are rightfully worried about how this process will affect their children and often acknowledge the separation of parents has been painful for their children. Yet, many parents do date and some do re-marry. Understanding how to balance your child’s perspective with your own needs may help you make good decisions about introducing a new adult into your family.
Last Spring, Andrea Peterson of the Wall Street Journal published, “So Cute, So Hard on Marriage”, an article about couples taking preemptive steps to curb the decline in marital satisfaction following the birth of a child.
Molly is 16-months-old when her parents separate. She is bright, verbal and social. Yet, overnight she seems to become a much younger child. She wants to be held, she regresses in her talking and both parents notice she has significant difficulties going between their homes. What is happening?